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And then the shame washed over me. The Big Gender Shame….


Jailbreak the Patriarchy : A Chrome Plugin …How it shows the real world..

http://www.autostraddle.com/genderfuck-the-internet-141188/

“And boi, did I notice the water. I decided to take the plug-in to this article about the new Bravo reality show set in the Silicon Valley. I was merrily reading along about Mr. Randi Zuckerberg, reading sentences such as “Kim Taylor described his start-up as based on personalized content in the luxury market for men.” And then it hit me. These people were actually women! In the technology industry! My brain said, “fah real?” I had to toggle the Patriarchy to read the “real” version of the article to be sure. And then the shame washed over me. The Big Gender Shame.

I’m a fairly gender-aware / gender-bendy person, but this plug-in had me breaking down prejudices I didn’t even realize I had, because they’d been so easy to quickly push aside. Why did I have to check on it to make sure these people were women? And why was I so surprised? But most importantly, why did I really care what gender these people were? The content in the article was more or less the same either way.”

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/08/29/jailbreak-the-patriarchy_n_3443654.html

Sucher says Jailbreak The Patriarchy has around 10,000 users, though she doesn’t know the precise demographics: She knows, though, that it’s been used in several Gender Studies classes (professors have written her grateful letters about it), and that her “community — the liberal queer-type developer — tends to get really excited about it.“”

https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/jailbreak-the-patriarchy/fiidcfoaaciclafodoficaofidfencgd

 

September 27, 2013 Posted by | Indian women | Leave a comment

Brilliant Song on Indian Intelligent Way of Controlling Sexuality…thru taunts and scare..


Brilliant Song on Indian Intelligent Way of Controlling Sexuality…thru taunts and scare..Simple Small Effective Statements and acting thru multiple angles – Control Women , Continue Patriarchy , Aunties and Uncles as Guardians Of Patriarchy , Scare and fear of results , Giving Bad name…

Comments please…

Shuddh Desi Romance

Dhoop mein nahayega toh dhoop lag jaayegi  (If you take bath in sun, you’ll get tanned,Obsession of Indian Society to Fairness crucial to getting married for girls)
Baatein yun banayega toh baat badh jaayegi( If you talk to much to boys or anything, girls will go out of control and may also fall in love , Any love marriages are not approved in India)
Ladki ghumayega toh lat lag jaayegi ( If you go out with a girl you will get the habit of dating , again not approved in India )

Oho
Chhori lipstick lagayegi toh bhoot ban jaayegi (If the girl puts on lipstick, she’ll look like a ghost – Chori-Unmarried girls Dont put lipstick it is western and also sexually provocative – Before marriage not allowed , but after marriage mandatory 😉 )
Sandalein chadhayegi toh oont ban jaayegi ( Girls should not be taller then men  and also you will look big and marrying after being adult is a problem , marry ASAP dont look older)
Phailti hai yahaan wahaan chhoot lag jaayegi (Spreading your Horizion here and there is bad sign , believe will not accept you , or you may even get raped and be untouchable finally)

Ho khidki dareeche se
Dabe paaon neeche se
Jhoote samaajon mein
Jhoote riwaajon mein
Liye hi jaaye koi chance

(Above:From some windows,
from under cover, in hiding,
in the false societies
and in false customs,
some keep taking their chances..)

Shuddh desi desi desi romance
Kameene haay re
Haay re crazy crazy vazy romance
Sharam naa aaye re

(Above : Pure countryside, Indian romance..
These kamine : mean and one who falls to any depth to get his things done type people!
Yeah, crazy-crazy romance..
They’re shameless..)

Hmmm… Galiyon mein phire
Kyun dikhe dukaanon-vukaanon mein
Ye mui belakhni
Haaye re mui belakhni

(Above : She wanders in streets,
Why is she seen in shops etc.,She goes out of Home, Women are supposed to be at Home all times
this damned adulteress,
this damned damned adulteress..

[Belakhni and belakhna would literally mean one who doesn’t have the ‘good character’ as per the societal norms.

Belakhni – Alokhi(Bangla) – Alakshmi [ksh – is called kha in , beLakhsmi , Alakshmi) – Social norm following and bringing dowry “”Good Girls”” are called Lakshmi In India . Alakshmi is the Opposite and Bad Sister of Lakshmi as per Mythology ]

belakhni would be the word for the girl and belakhna would be the word for the boy. The tone of belakhna/belakhni is casual, though the meaning is more or less an adulterer here.]

Haay re haay, collar toh bade
Yun chadhe giraaye, giraaye chale
Muaa belakhna
Haaye re muaa belakhna

(Above : see, collars are kept high,
and he walks while moving them down..
damned adulterer..
this damned damned adulterer..
hmmmm…)

Dar na dikhaoge toh par lag jaayenge
Armaan sulao ji, nahi toh jag jaayenge
Galiyon mein aashiqon ke jhund lag jaayenge

(If you don’t show them the fear, they’ll grow wings,
Make their wishes sleep, or else they’ll wake up..
There will be herds of lovers in streets..
[i.e. the common feeling of the society is that if you don’t keep your young boys and girls in control, all of them will be falling in love.Falling in love is sin – unholy act])

Abhi kachche aam hai ji, ye toh pak jaayenge
Badon chhupaya hai jo ye toh chakh jaayenge
Bade boodhe bade bade bol bol thak jaayenge

(As of now they are raw mangoes, they’ll be ripened
They’ll taste what the elders have hidden from them , Oxymoron: but they should be married early too oxymoron
The elders and old ones will be tired telling them..)

Ho khidki dareeche se
Dabe paaon neeche se
Jhoote samaajon mein
Jhoote riwaajon mein
Liye hi jaaye koi chance

Shuddh desi desi desi romance
Kameene haaye re
Haay re crazy crazy vazy romance
Sharam naa aaye re ….

I love this song , Nice depiction of  our society in simple lyrics or rather complex lyrics

Feel like adding one more Modern Line (Nonsense to control womens good health , ratehr give bad health), and educated science and biology students buy it ……

Weights Uthayegi to Dole Ban Jayenge … ( If you lift weight , you will bulk up) …Another Pure Unadulterated BS…..Aur/And Even a Woman wants to bulk up , its her choice..

September 22, 2013 Posted by | culture, current issues, daughter sons, Double standards, fakeindianbbahu, family, feminism, fiction, freedom, gender, happiness, Indian women, intolerance, jeans, love, marriage, modern outlook, poems, society, Stereotypes, strength, superstition, Tradition, work | , , , | 2 Comments

And most of them get a Bahu of their choice …And later end up in unsatisfied DIL


Need your comments , this article has been taken from : The whole article is so worth reading that couldnt delete anything…What does it depict about our present generation..
http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-07-31/people/40895794_1_family-business-gurgaon-south-delhi

Marriage bureaus say more than 90% of men and their moms in Gurgaon want unemployed brides, so they can devote time to the rishtedaars and the house.

Of course they shouldn’t just sit at home. There’s plenty to stay occupied – the family business, NGOs, home ventures or even kitty parties – anything but a job!

Gurgaon draws ample comparison with many-a-foreign city with its buzzing work culture and equally buzzing nightlife. However, Millennium City men just don’t want their buzzing female counterparts as the wife. What they want are perfect homemakers who keep themselves and the house sparkling, spend time with the hubby and saas-sasur, and impress the extended family with their home-running skills. We kid you not. According to a survey by matrimonial site shaadi.com, 94% to-be-grooms in Gurgaon want non-working women. While for the business class, it’s about ‘why should she go and work for someone else when she can work in the family business?’, salaried professionals don’t want a wife’s hectic workday grind to throw their domestic lives in disarray.

For them, it’s about status: matchmaker
A spokesperson from shaadi.com says, “We’ve observed this trend, which makes the bride requirements of Delhi and Gurgaon different. This data includes both service and business-class people.” Gurgaon-based matchmaker Janvhi Oberoi of Janvhi Matrimonial agrees, “The majority of my clients ask for non-working brides; I would say 99% of them. They just don’t want their bahus to do a nine to five job. For business families, I’ve had clients saying, “Hum doosron ko naukri dete hain, hamari bahu doosron ke yahaan kyun naukri karegi?'” Asked if Delhi too has a similar trend, she says, “No. People in Delhi are just obsessed with the area. They all want their daughters to get married in South Delhi.”

Bahus should be unemployed, yes, but self-occupied
Priya Verma of Global Alliance Matrimony explains, “Subah uth ke chai banaane wali toh kisi ko bhi nahi chahiye. Most of my clients are industrialists and high-earning professionals. These people prefer a non-working girl, but want her to be self-occupied, meaning doing something but not an office job – open an NGO, have a business of her own, or get busy with socializing and kitty parties etc. These things keep their wives or daughters-in-law occupied, but at the same time, as per the family’s needs, she can adjust her schedule.” Priya adds, “In many cases, the girl herself opts not to work. They are those who get married late and want a break from work.”

While at the time of the wedding, the groom’s family might prefer an unemployed girl, they might offer the daughter-in-law a start-up of her own or to join the family business once she’s settled in. “My son is getting married in December. My daughter-in-law was a sales executive at an MNC. When we have a business of our own, what is the need for her to work? We asked her to quit. If she wants, she can join our family business, which she’ll definitely enjoy,” says Manoj Oberoi, a businessman.

Bahus should devote time to the family
Another Gurgaon-based matchmaker, Amit Shukla, tells us, “Clients clearly tell us to look for non-working girls as they, according to them, have more family values. Apart from looks and education, the other important criterion now is a non-working bride. These clients either belong to the business class or are high-earning professionals. They want an English-speaking girl so she can adjust into their friend circle. Such wives can devote more time to the family, look after the household and also help the mom-in-law in her kitty parties.”

To this, Seema Sharan*, who is looking for a bride for her son, says, “I have a joint family. I want an educated girl who can look after my family. If I get a working girl, it will be difficult for her to join us for family dinners, functions or outings. I too, used to teach before marriage, but I quit because I didn’t want my relatives to comment on how little time I gave to my family. Believe it or not, a working-bride can’t devote much time to her family. On weekends, they would like to rest and spend time alone. Aise mein rishtedaar toh chhoro, khud ki family ke liye bhi time nikaalna mushkil hai.”

We’ll be too tired to spend time together: bachelors
“I work for 55-60 hours a week. If I have a working wife, it will be difficult. Jab mujhe tour pe jana hoga, tab woh nahi jaa payegi, jab usse weekend pe kaam karna padega, toh main bore ho jaunga. It will be like two unmarried, working people just living together. At night, we’ll be too tired to talk. I’ve made my choice clear to my parents. I want a non-working girl. At least she’ll be there for me all the time. I know it sounds selfish, but if you think of the future, this decision is perfect for the both of us,” says Pratik Kumar*, 28, a production engineer.

Vaibhav Agrawal*, 32, a sales manager, says, “A working wife has just one advantage – dual income. But the savingsstill stay zero. If you have a working wife, you spend all your income on maids, drivers, laundry and other such things. If you don’t have a working wife, you spend all your income on her shopping. Still, I would prefer a non-working girl. She can be handled, but a working girl is more arrogant. I deal with these girls daily at work. They are competitive, and are opportunists who would do anything for a promotion. Aisi kisi bandi se agar meri shaadi hui toh office aur ghar mein koi difference nahi rahega.”

http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-07-31/people/40895794_1_family-business-gurgaon-south-delhi

 

September 21, 2013 Posted by | Indian women | 1 Comment

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