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Marriage bureaus say more than 90% of men and their moms in Gurgaon want unemployed brides, so they can devote time to the rishtedaars and the house.

Of course they shouldn’t just sit at home. There’s plenty to stay occupied – the family business, NGOs, home ventures or even kitty parties – anything but a job!

Gurgaon draws ample comparison with many-a-foreign city with its buzzing work culture and equally buzzing nightlife. However, Millennium City men just don’t want their buzzing female counterparts as the wife. What they want are perfect homemakers who keep themselves and the house sparkling, spend time with the hubby and saas-sasur, and impress the extended family with their home-running skills. We kid you not. According to a survey by matrimonial site shaadi.com, 94% to-be-grooms in Gurgaon want non-working women. While for the business class, it’s about ‘why should she go and work for someone else when she can work in the family business?’, salaried professionals don’t want a wife’s hectic workday grind to throw their domestic lives in disarray.

For them, it’s about status: matchmaker
A spokesperson from shaadi.com says, “We’ve observed this trend, which makes the bride requirements of Delhi and Gurgaon different. This data includes both service and business-class people.” Gurgaon-based matchmaker Janvhi Oberoi of Janvhi Matrimonial agrees, “The majority of my clients ask for non-working brides; I would say 99% of them. They just don’t want their bahus to do a nine to five job. For business families, I’ve had clients saying, “Hum doosron ko naukri dete hain, hamari bahu doosron ke yahaan kyun naukri karegi?'” Asked if Delhi too has a similar trend, she says, “No. People in Delhi are just obsessed with the area. They all want their daughters to get married in South Delhi.”

Bahus should be unemployed, yes, but self-occupied
Priya Verma of Global Alliance Matrimony explains, “Subah uth ke chai banaane wali toh kisi ko bhi nahi chahiye. Most of my clients are industrialists and high-earning professionals. These people prefer a non-working girl, but want her to be self-occupied, meaning doing something but not an office job – open an NGO, have a business of her own, or get busy with socializing and kitty parties etc. These things keep their wives or daughters-in-law occupied, but at the same time, as per the family’s needs, she can adjust her schedule.” Priya adds, “In many cases, the girl herself opts not to work. They are those who get married late and want a break from work.”

While at the time of the wedding, the groom’s family might prefer an unemployed girl, they might offer the daughter-in-law a start-up of her own or to join the family business once she’s settled in. “My son is getting married in December. My daughter-in-law was a sales executive at an MNC. When we have a business of our own, what is the need for her to work? We asked her to quit. If she wants, she can join our family business, which she’ll definitely enjoy,” says Manoj Oberoi, a businessman.

Bahus should devote time to the family
Another Gurgaon-based matchmaker, Amit Shukla, tells us, “Clients clearly tell us to look for non-working girls as they, according to them, have more family values. Apart from looks and education, the other important criterion now is a non-working bride. These clients either belong to the business class or are high-earning professionals. They want an English-speaking girl so she can adjust into their friend circle. Such wives can devote more time to the family, look after the household and also help the mom-in-law in her kitty parties.”

To this, Seema Sharan*, who is looking for a bride for her son, says, “I have a joint family. I want an educated girl who can look after my family. If I get a working girl, it will be difficult for her to join us for family dinners, functions or outings. I too, used to teach before marriage, but I quit because I didn’t want my relatives to comment on how little time I gave to my family. Believe it or not, a working-bride can’t devote much time to her family. On weekends, they would like to rest and spend time alone. Aise mein rishtedaar toh chhoro, khud ki family ke liye bhi time nikaalna mushkil hai.”

We’ll be too tired to spend time together: bachelors
“I work for 55-60 hours a week. If I have a working wife, it will be difficult. Jab mujhe tour pe jana hoga, tab woh nahi jaa payegi, jab usse weekend pe kaam karna padega, toh main bore ho jaunga. It will be like two unmarried, working people just living together. At night, we’ll be too tired to talk. I’ve made my choice clear to my parents. I want a non-working girl. At least she’ll be there for me all the time. I know it sounds selfish, but if you think of the future, this decision is perfect for the both of us,” says Pratik Kumar*, 28, a production engineer.

Vaibhav Agrawal*, 32, a sales manager, says, “A working wife has just one advantage – dual income. But the savingsstill stay zero. If you have a working wife, you spend all your income on maids, drivers, laundry and other such things. If you don’t have a working wife, you spend all your income on her shopping. Still, I would prefer a non-working girl. She can be handled, but a working girl is more arrogant. I deal with these girls daily at work. They are competitive, and are opportunists who would do anything for a promotion. Aisi kisi bandi se agar meri shaadi hui toh office aur ghar mein koi difference nahi rahega.”




September 21, 2013 - Posted by | Indian women


  1. Is this trend because of the historically dominant patriarchal culture of north ,I guess .. It is so sad to read that women themselves become guardian of patriarchy .. I could see only male perspectives being discussed here .. Such attitudes bring down the importance of female education and independence.

    Comment by Suruchi Chaudhary | September 23, 2013 | Reply

  2. Its not only a fraud company but also a racket going on in the name of Global Alliance Matrimony. This racket is run by girls in all the branches of Global Alliance and this company makes tall claims shows big pictures and dreams and play with emotions of clients. Till the time of registration they will keep on calling you and after registration they are not interested in giving you services. Its been 9 months now and till date the services which they should have given me as their Emarld package holder they have not given me any services. They are a complete bunch of fraud and cheaters I have registered there complaint in Moti Nagar police station as I registered in there Raja Garden branch. Its a fake matrimony and beware of the ladies sitting in Global Alliance offices who are ready to make fool out of you and they are not afraid of anyone because there is no higher authority in this fake organization to take any strict action against them.

    Comment by Bhawna | September 23, 2015 | Reply

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